Beginner's guide to Japanese Shibari bondage

Shibari, also known as Kinbaku, is a Japanese bondage art that consists in binding a person with ropes in an erotic and/or aesthetic way. This ancient practice has its origins in the tying techniques used by samurai in the Middle Ages. Today, it is attracting a growing number of adepts, seduced by its sensual and artistic dimension, on the bangs of more conventional Western BDSM practices. In this article, we'll cover the basics of Shibari, so that you can get to grips with this singular art form and share this unique experience with your partner.

What you need to practice Shibari

Before you embark on your first Shibari sessions, it's essential to have the right equipment. Here's a list of the essentials you'll need:

• Open-mindedness and mutual consent It goes without saying, but the basis of good practice is respect and communication between partners.
• Strings Ropes are obviously the central element of Shibari. The recommended type of rope is natural fiber, such as jute or hemp, which offers a better grip and is more gentle on the skin.
• Safety scissors It's essential to always have scissors on hand to cut ropes quickly and efficiently in case of emergency or need.
• Carabiners Carabiners: Carabiners can be used to tie ropes together more easily. Be careful to choose models without sharp parts to avoid injuring your partner.
• Carpet or mattress : Remember to provide a comfortable, safe surface for your Shibari sessions, especially if you plan to use techniques involving suspension.

Lessons to learn the basics of Shibari

Once you've got your gear together, the next step is to learn about the different Shibari techniques. There are several ways to do this:

• Online courses : Many specialized websites offer online lessons, often free of charge, to learn the basics of Shibari. These lessons are ideal for those who wish to learn at their own pace.
• Workshops If you prefer live instruction, there are numerous workshops and schools dedicated to the art of tying all over France. You'll learn the essential techniques and safety rules to adopt during your practice sessions.
• Books : Some instructional books provide all the information you need to start and progress in Shibari.
• Community Joining forums, newsgroups or other online community spaces can be a great way to exchange ideas with other enthusiasts and learn from their experiences.

Whatever method you choose, the key to success lies in perseverance and regular practice. Shibari is an art that requires a certain amount of skill and patience, but mastering it can bring immense satisfaction to both the person tied up and the one handling the ropes.

The main Shibari knots

Tying at the heart of Shibari relies on different types of specific knots depending on the figures and positions desired. Here are three basic knots to get you started:

1. The simple fruit knot

This knot is probably the easiest to make, and forms the basis of many more complex knots. Its name comes from its shape, reminiscent of a fruit hanging from a branch. To tie this knot, simply pass the rope around your partner's body, then pass the end of the rope under the rest of the rope, before pulling it towards you to tighten the knot.

2. The bowline

The chair knot is a very strong knot, ideal for holding certain parts of the body firmly in place. It is made by passing the rope around the limb to be tied, then making a loop with the free end of the rope and passing it through the loop before tightening.

3. The Somerville Bowline

This knot is particularly suited to star or "Hishi" structures. It offers the dual advantage of being easy to loosen while holding the ropes firmly in place. To make a Somerville Bowline, pass the rope several times around the limbs to be tied, then interweave the resulting loops before securing the whole with another single knot or lark's head.

Find a partner for Shibari

Even if you can train alone with your ropes to learn the different knots, it's essential to find a partner you can trust to live the Shibari experience to the full. Here are some tips for finding the right person:

• Communicate your expectations and limits Communication is key to ensuring mutual respect and understanding of each other's needs during practice sessions.
• Show patience and kindness Shibari-based relationships require a great deal of trust between partners, and take time to blossom.
• Share your goals and desires Please state clearly what you expect from this experience and what motivates you to practice Shibari.

Finally, it's essential to pay particular attention to safety during your Shibari sessions. The risk of injury or discomfort must be taken seriously before, during and after each session. Don't hesitate to find out about the safety instructions and scrupulously follow the advice of professionals, so you can enjoy this fascinating art to the full while preserving your physical and emotional integrity.